Thoughts about family, music, gardening, decorating, and aging gracefully
Thursday, October 22, 2009
Caregivers' survival, part II
A few days ago I wrote about things to do to take care of the caregiver. I realized later there are other things to add to the list:
HIRE SOME HELP (IF YOU CAN). I have someone who comes every two weeks to help me catch up on cleaning and laundry. This lets me have at least a little time to do things for myself. As women, we have always taken care of so many things ourselves, but especially as we age it becomes difficult to accomplish as much as we once did. And when we have to care for a loved one, our discretionary time becomes scarce. So if you can afford it, hire someone to help you.
ACCEPT OFFERS OF HELP FROM FAMILY AND FRIENDS. It's easy to feel like we'd be imposing on someone who offers to help, or we're concerned that the person doesn't really mean it, and so we say no. Learn to say yes, at least some of the time. Have you ever helped someone? Didn't it make you feel better? Give others the same chance.
I am retired widow living in a little town in a beautiful valley between two mountain ranges. I share my home with my cat, known from time to time as "fatcat," bratcat," and "bruiser." I keep busy with volunteer activities, gardening, and playing music.
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